Neither the need nor the desire for masculinity is dead. Given the attack on men and the feminization of the culture, however, men might not get that impression from women. Yet, both the need and desire for masculinity are very much alive, and provably so.
Proving it—that’s exactly what we are going to do.
My friend Marlon is a young, beautiful, modern woman. I add modern because she is of an era that appears not so fond of masculinity. Meaning, Marlon isn’t so fond masculinity, presumably.
Only, such presumptions would be wrong. Marlon knows exactly what she wants in a man.
Next to a flattering, full-body selfie, in which she was the essence of female perfection, Marlon said, “Of course I am not worried about intimidating men. The type of man who will be intimidated by me is exactly the type of man I have no interest in.”
So what kind of man does Marlon want?
She wants the kind every woman wants: Don Draper.
Women could do without the Draper philandering, of course. Still, they like the Draper confidence and control. They like the daring. They like the toughness. They like men who won’t be kept on a leash. They like men who won’t tolerate excessive drama, and who won’t be trifled with, and who’ll get dead in their ass when necessary and required.
Basically, women want men that won’t be pushed around, and who are willing the cut them loose. Such men are attractive, titillating, and challenging. They engender desire. And more importantly, respect.
In other words, women want men to be masculine. The same as men want women to be feminine.
It’s simple, really. Men don’t want women acting like butchy lesbians pretending to be men. Men want women to be feminine and genteel and vulnerable. Men want the coquettish glances, and shy grins of excitement and approval. Men like lace and soft scents and smooth skin. They want demure women, women of self-respect and class.
Likewise, women don’t want men to act like emasculate wusses. Women like confidence and decisiveness. They want men to be somewhat unpredictable, dangerous, and exciting. They want men to be tough, determined, self-assured, and unflappable. They want men to be direct, honest, principled, and fair. It all represents security to women.
These are human principles—fundamental, longstanding, unchanging. And when women roll their eyes at all this. When they laugh condescendingly, and say, “Ha! You don’t know women at all!” They’re all lying through the teeth.
So, ignore them. Dismiss them.
Because it’s all true. And they know it’s true.
In fact, leave those cackling broads and go find a woman who knows what’s up, and whose unafraid admit what she wants and to be herself—her real self. That’s the one you want, gentlemen.
Cackling posers only bring men misery.
In the feminist era, women deny what they truly want from men because it makes women appear weak and vulnerable and incapable, and because it makes them unequal. Mainly, women deny what they truly want from men because it casts them in a subordinate role, which is a role they actually prefer, incidentally, but is yet an appearance they must avoid as a matter of image.
Politics. They make a nightmare of a wet dream.
So women deny what they truly desire, and thus deny themselves. By doing that, they then lie to themselves, and lie to men. And all to cater to their need for security and to a feminist image, which leaves men not only confused, but trying in vain to figure out what women want.
Thus, the point: men need to stop trying to figure out what women want.
Do they want masculine men, sensitive men? Should I become this, or that?
The indecisiveness is precisely what makes men feminine, and thus unattractive to women.
Women need to be worried about what men want, not the other way around.
Besides, I just told you what women want. So did Marlon—and she’s hot.
Women want masculine men—bad-boys if you will. Be that. Be yourself, and whatever form of masculinity that takes.
Despite their wet dream ruining politics, masculinity is the counterbalance to femininity that women both desire and need—still.
Famously-moustached host, John Stossel, of the ABC television network’s news magazine, 20/20, explored the issue of masculinity in a roundabout way. He wanted to know if a man’s height mattered to women, if it made men less masculine and attractive.
In an experiment, Stossel arranged several men – both short and tall – in a line-up behind a two-way mirror. He then asked groups of women to choose a date.
Women always chose the taller men, and despite the curb-appeal of the shorter men being artificially enhanced.
For example, Stossel made one man, five-foot-three, a doctor. One was made a best-selling author. One a champion skier who had just built his own ski house. And one a wealthy millionaire.
Yet, despite the added curb-appeal, the feminine window-shoppers still deemed the smaller men “too short.”
Asked what it would take for the women to date one of the smaller men, one woman responded brutally, “Maybe the only thing you could say is the others are murderers.”
Murderers—a no-go. Interesting. Keep that in mind.
Now. This is key, is central to the point of masculinity: during an interview, the women were asked about their preference for taller men. One woman said flatly, “I just want to look up in those dark-eyes, and feel those strong arms around me.”
And as she delivered the remark, the other women were smiling dreamily and nodding their agreement.
And what does the comment and the collective agreement demonstrate?
It demonstrates that, one, women prefer “looking up” into the eyes of their champion in an implied position of vulnerability and submission. And two, it demonstrates strength and masculinity have incalculable value in making women feel safe and secure.
In other words, for all their feminist bluster. For all their demands for equality. Women still want to be taken, sheltered, and secured by strong, masculine men.
And there is this uncomfortable and thus unspoken truth: as matters of vanity and image, women don’t like being seen socially with shorter men—even if those men are prestigious doctors, best-selling authors, champion skiers, or wealthy millionaires.
Why? Because they must look down upon the dark eyes of their champion, whom they must also stoop down to issue a hug.
It’s a vain miscalculation, certainly. But it’s nonetheless true.
The point is the women in the experiment were being honest about their vulnerability, and about their desire for strong masculinity to offset that sense of vulnerability.
So, there it is: more proof.
Women mock other women as being “trophy girlfriends and wives,” and they mock men for both wanting and having “trophy girlfriends and wives.” Well, women want—tall, dark eyes, strong arms to hold them secure—trophy boyfriends and husbands, too, obviously.
And they want them to be masculine.
Writer Benjamin Percy, the epitome of the modern, feminized male, decided to wear a pregnancy, or “empathy,” suit for nine weeks. The suit, made of thick nylon, sported a fake belly and breasts to simulate pregnancy, which Percy wore over his regular clothes for the nine week duration.
He explained his motive to comedian Steve Harvey, a substitute host on NBCs The Today Show:
Percy: “The idea behind [the experiment] is that, our grandfathers never even held babies. Our fathers never changed diapers. And these days that’s grounds for divorce. So there’s sort of shifting gender relations going on now in this country. I’ve got a lot of pals who are stay at home dads. I’ve got a lot of pals who are really involved with their kid’s lives—coaching and volunteering at schools, and I feel a little inadequate in that regard sometimes.”
Harvey: “So you wanted to accomplish what by doin’ this…?”
Percy: “To make up for my mouth-breathing, hairy-chested, caveman deficiencies…”
Yes. It’s beyond embarrassing.
Nevertheless, modern women should appreciate Percy’s sensitive male attempt to relate, shouldn’t they? They profess that men don’t care about their feelings or what it’s like to be a woman. So this nine week effort at prenatal empathy should go a long way in improving gender relations, right?
During the interview with Harvey, Percy said he “expected to get a nice pat on the back” from women, but found that “women were fixated on the suit’s inadequacies.” He was shocked to learn that women wanted him to have heartburn roiling up his throat; and varicose veins rising like garden hoses up his legs; and the every-five-minute urge to pee; and constipation for a week; and that they wanted him to endure being jabbed full of hormone-oozing needles.
In other words, this little feminine exercise of Percy’s was as useless as teats on a boar hog. Not only were women irritated at the attempt at empathy. To Percy’s totally unmanly olive branch, they said, “Nice try, wuss.”
Women are clearly unaffected by these kinds of unmanly overreaches, and are incensed and repulsed by men who attempt them. Why are women incensed and repulsed?
Because it isn’t masculine.
Exhibit D is a not-so-flattering contrast with Exhibit C. It is to begin this way:
In his book Prison Groupies, crime-writer Clifford Linedecker wrote about notorious men finding female favor. Men like Scott Peterson, for example.
After being convicted of murdering his wife and child, and upon spending little more than an hour on San Quentin’s death-row, the infamous Peterson received his first marriage proposal from a smitten young woman.
Satanist, Richard Ramirez, is another example. Ramirez went on a home-invasion crime spree that terrorized greater Los Angeles residents. The diabolical bender included a shockingly brutal string of rapes, murders, and mutilations that, like Peterson, earned Ramirez a seat on San Quentin’s death row, too.
Yet, despite Ramirez’s merciless brutality—toward women, no less. According to Linedecker, Ramirez “had women falling all over him” and “fighting one another for his attention.”
John Wayne Gacy is yet another example. He buried 26 of his victims in the crawl space of his home. Three more were buried elsewhere on his property, while the bodies of his last four known victims were discarded in the Des Plaines River. Yet, both an unattractive guy and a homosexual, Gacy “had all kinds of women after him.”
Now. No doubt “normal” and “self-respecting” women would take a dim view of the women pursuing these notorious ne’re-do-wells. Refined women would call these bad-boy chasers skanks, groupies, sluts, and women of low quality and self-esteem.
Be that as it may, which it surely is, men should consider this:
These raving, convicted and incarcerated lunatics couldn’t have treated women worse. Yet, they have more female attention than they can manage. In prison, no less.
Clearly Moody, The Barstool Prophet, has a point: “No man should underestimate his ability to attract women.” In attracting women, there is obviously hope for every man—even the worst of men. As in, say, diabolical murderers and whatnot.
So, contrasting Exhibits D and C, let’s get this straight: while these lunatic prison outlaws are with women kicking ass and taking names. The good guys are wearing fake bellies and breasts for nine weeks to empathize with women, and are being viewed as wussies and treated with contempt.
I say again: it’s beyond embarrassing.
Considering the female success of the notorious, perhaps the good guys should consider adopting a more sinister edge. Or at least something less, empathetic.
Because women will find them more masculine, and will more likely fawn over them and fight for their attention. That’s why.
Like I said, neither the desire nor the need for masculinity are dead. They’re very much alive. However, in the era of gender competition and equality, it is need and desire modern women feel compelled to conceal.
The problem with masculinity is, one: it is dominant by nature. And two, it is refuge.
In other words, in a feminist culture bent on achieving and maintaining equality among the sexes, masculine dominance is a standard which cannot stand. And given women naturally look to men for refuge and safety, the female desire for masculinity is a reality which cannot be recognized—at least not openly.
Therefore, for women to acknowledge a desire for masculinity is to acknowledge a desire for security, which is to acknowledge masculine dominance, which is to acknowledge at least a level of dependency. All of which an equality-driven culture frowns upon.
And there you have it: the problem.
On the hunt for men, women do exactly as men do. Men notice the overall attractiveness of women, and their gender specific traits—breasts and buns and figures. Likewise, women notice men’s overall attractiveness, and their gender specific traits—muscular physiques, hairy chests, scruffy beards, and firm buns. It’s a primal, innate examination.
So, it’s clear: women desire physical masculinity. It is only within relationships that women develop sudden reservations with masculinity.
Basically, men use masculinity to attract women, because that’s what women like and want. Once in a relationship, however, women attempt to temper and redefine masculinity so as to enhance both their feelings of security and their emotional comfort.
In other words, women begin emasculating men for their insecurities, and for their own selfish purposes.
Only, the practice stands in direct opposition to the masculinity women genuinely and actually want and need. Meanwhile, it supplies men with confounding directives.
And how do men respond?
Instead of being the masculine men they were initially, and that women want and need. Men allow themselves to be emasculated, and to become caricatures who take to wearing fake bellies and breasts, to then become emasculated imposters women both loathe and disrespect.
It’s an unfortunate sequence of events—for which men are responsible.
Now. There is one other facet of masculinity that needs to be addressed. Masculinity is a subjective term. Meaning ultimately, masculinity can be demonstrated in various ways.
Frankly, I don’t want my social sphere to be dominated by a bunch of alpha males. I rather appreciate masculine diversity in this respect. I have male friends and acquaintances who are robustly masculine, and I have others who are less so, and even effeminate.
Naturally, the robustly masculine A-types project strength and traditional manliness, and thus have no problem attracting women. The others are gentler, less competitive, and aren’t the sorts one would necessarily term: ladies men.
Yet, they are all decent, strong, masculine men at their core. For some, their competitive strength and drive and determination make them masculine. For others it’s their calm demeanor. For others, their patience and understanding and compassion. I value not only masculine diversity, but what it brings to my life via my social sphere.
In fact, I tell women all the time that the gentler, less competitive, and even effeminate men are a largely untapped relationship market. In terms of relationship partners, the gentler sorts are strong in their own way, and moreover, very steady and reliable.
Masculinity isn’t just confined to height, dark-eyes and strong arms. It comes in various forms, and is just as sexy. Women just need to look past the standard for strength and masculinity, to a standard behind the scenes and less visible.
The masculinity women want and need doesn’t always look like the standard, and everything below isn’t substandard, either.
Far from it.
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